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过大年,忆故人,讲传统,说家教,颂家风

热度 3已有 635 次阅读2012-1-22 11:55 |个人分类:家教传统| 传统, 家教

过年了,每逢佳节倍思亲,不由得让我想起早已离我们而去的亲人。其中,影响我一生的是我伯母,是她和通过她向我言传身教的曾祖父的家教传统和家风的影响,造就了我的人生。                                                               曾祖父吴光香,是大明永乐四年从山西洪洞县迁往河南成皋(汜水)的吴氏始祖,吴同天,(字法健,号乐善)的十九世孙。1865年生于书香门第,自幼读诗书,识礼仪。故一生重礼仪,倡仁义,尊孝道,通医理,主张仁为本,孝为先,和为贵,让为德。与曾祖母和睦相处,生3男4女,加孙辈数十人。男子从小皆读书识字,女子皆自幼学女工,守三从四德。居家数十口,姑嫂同岁,叔侄同庚者不乏其人,年龄相近者更多。因受良好家教影响,个个皆尊老爱幼,和睦相处,互谅互让,孝亲好友,积极进取,“后头院(祖宅)的子孙孝顺,男人聪明,女人贤惠”被族人及乡邻认可,传为美谈。                                                                                                                            在军伐混战,社会动荡,外敌入侵,内忧外患的旧中国,我们家也象千千万万个家庭一样,是风雨飘摇中的一叶小舟,从1923年到1943年的20年间,先后有9人辞世。特别是曾祖父,祖父,三祖父的辞世,使这个家受到重创。几年间,65岁的曾祖父辞世,39岁的爷爷和三爷,三叔,英年早逝。是丧夫丧子年过六旬的曾祖母,和年届四旬的祖母带领全家人度过一道道难关。                                                                                                                   解放后1962年自然灾害中,我的父亲,伯父又在不到半年内相继病故,是年近六旬的伯母和母亲秉承祖训,带领我们兄妹三人团结一致,艰苦奋斗并借助国家,集体之力及亲朋接济,抚养我们兄妹三人成人,教育我们成才,才使得我们能报效国家,造福社会,答谢桑梓。                                                                                                我们家经历百余年(1890-以后)跨越三个世纪始终和睦相处,立于不败。六代人没有真正意义上的分家,特别是伯母和母亲不是姐妹胜似姐妹,良好的妯娌关系和她们勤劳朴实,孝亲友邻,倾心教子的美德在家族中广受赞誉,被载入余顶吴氏族谱,难能可贵。这与我们家好的家教传统和良好家风息息相关,密不可分。                                   现在,虽然先辈们早已离我们而去,而他们留给我们的优良的家教传统和家风已经成为我们的精神财富。仍指引和激励着后人。


过大年,忆故人,讲传统,说家教,颂家风

个人分类:家教传统| 传统, 家教 


Guo Danian, thinking of an old friend, tradition, said tutor, song style

Heat 3: traditional | traditional classification of tutor, tutor

Have the Spring Festival, Sze dear, so I can not help think long away from us.Among them, affect my life is my aunt, she and her to teach by precept and example by my grandfather's family tradition and family influence, has made mylife. Great grandfather Wu Guangxiang, is the Ming Yongle four years from Shanxi to Henan Hongdong County Chenggao (Sishui) of Wu ancestor, Wu Tongtian, (Zi Fajian, Le Shan) nineteen shisun. Born in 1865 in a family of scholar, he read, general etiquette. So life re etiquette, respect and filial piety,righteousness, through medicine, Master Zhang Ren oriented, filial piety,harmony, for the de. And grandmother live together in peace together, 3 male and 4 female, with dozens of grandchildren. Men from all read, women have hadto learn to keep women, the three obediences and the four virtues. Home in tens,sisters in law are of the same age, they were of similar age friend no lack of such people, more. Because of good parenting, all are young, live together in peace together, mutual understanding and mutual accommodation, filial piety good friend, aggressive, "First Hospital (Zu Zhai) children filial piety, a man wise,virtuous woman" by the people and his neighbour recognition, pass from mouth to mouth with approbation. In the military expedition melee, social unrest, foreign invasion, the old Chinese domestic trouble and foreign invasion, our family is likethousands on thousands of families, is a leaf boat precarious in, from 1923 to1943 20 years, there have been 9 people died. Especially the great grandfather,grandfather, grandfather died three, make the stricken. In recent years, the 65 year old grandfather died, 39 year old grandfather and three yes, uncle, die young. Is her husband's son had a grandmother, and grandmother at lent to lead the family to spend a hurdle. After the liberation of the natural disaster in 1962,my father, uncle and in less than six months have died, is nearly 60 years oldaunt and mother, uphold the Zuxun, lead us three brothers and sisters unite as one, work hard and perseveringly and with the aid of the state, collective andrelatives and help raise our brother, sister of three adult education, we become,that we can serve the country, benefit the society, return home. We have more than hundred years (1890-) spanning three centuries always live together in peace together, invincible. Six generation not separation on real significance,especially the aunt and mother, sister is not good sisters, sisters in law relations and they are industrious and simple, filial piety friend, go Godson virtueacclaimed in the family, was included in remainder Wu genealogy, praiseworthy for one's excellent conduct. This is closely related to our good family tradition and good style, close. Now, even though our ancestors have left us, but they left usexcellent family tradition and family has become our spiritual wealth. Still guide and inspire later generations.


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